Finally after many telephone calls we secured a break for June 2011
after 2 days at Brighton House a local respite he got out of bed fell
and broke his hip whilst suffering yet another water infection.
He was Admitted to the University Hospital North Staffordshire and we came back home to be by his bedside
His hip was pinned and screwed back into place one hell of an operation for a 91 year old to go through and after a couple of days was transfererd to a local hospital called Bradwell.
For the many months he was there he was medicated against the familys wishes with temazipam and then very high doses of Codine Phosphate.
He was losing weight gaining bed sores had multiple falls and was not being given the correct amount of phisio all of which has since being acknowledged by investigation.
The family purchased an Electric Chair and fully refitted his home and bedroom to allow for his poor condition and inability to walk.
He was returned home by Ambulance and still not walking with his shirt and trowsers undone unshaven and looking very ill.
After a long day of him appearing very ill his GP was called in who expressed concern at the high doses of codine phosphate in his medication and adjusted this he also had a Chest and water infection.
The following day the out of hours doctor was called and he advised myself and familly that we must be prepared and that his oppinion was he did not have long left to live.
He was asleap most of the time and it was difficult to get him to eat and drink but we managed.
After nearly 2 weeks of him being home his social worker who had gone on holiday decided along with a tissue viability nurse to get him back to Bradwell hospital using his bed sores as an excuse to get his bed back.
He spent another week there and was then sent as an Emegency to University Hospital North Staffordshire without notes or any DNR paperwork.
When he was addmited we were asked "Why is he here" He was confused , Agitated.
The hospital filed in the CHC assesment and discharge paperwork whilst he still appeared to be very ill.
the Continuing Healthcare Checklist is a document that should have the familys input and had been undertaken without our Knowledge.
He was telling us upon every visit that the food was awfull and he was being trapped in bed and no one would come when he needed help.
We had witnessed other elderly people in the ward crying out for help and being ignored also on an occasion our grandfarther was left unattended in A toilet for over 30 minuits unchecked.
When we requested he be moved to an area of the ward where we thought more staff could see him if he tried to get out of bed and assist him he was moved to a bay which heavily smelt of fecal matter and was cluttered.
He was assigned A Social Worker who dismissed his initial discharge date and his CHC as inapropriate.
All the time he was in the university hospital he appeared either very ill , heavy sedated and very confused.
We made issue about his care , medication and general treatment.
We were requested to a meeting with his Social Worker, we assumed that this would be about getting him into reanablement or home all good news.
We arrived at the meeting and were immediatly told that there were serious issues that needed answers.
We were accused straight out of Neglect , Abuse and Theft from grandad based on the following that we had sometimes whilst caring for him ate our meal at a different time, That the food we gave him was of poor standard and that he did not have his wallet on him. We felt like someone had just shot us in the head.
We tried to explane the care situation the food and we had collected his wallet from the respite home we were told that they could not belive it and were then persistently asked how I felt about caring for him in future.
We asked as to what would happen if we were not carers and were informed that he could go home have an assesment and if ok would be more than ok.
I put forward again the point that he leaves the gas on sets fire to rice pots in microwave and was coldly informed that if he wished to go home and blow himself up that would be ok and his choice.
With my heart and mind in complete confusion and feeling like I was A complete failure in protecting my Grandfarther that evening I did something that I will never do again.
Early in the morning not being able to sleep I walked some distance from my home dont know why to this day and found myself over a dual carriageway bridge.
Looking down in the cold night air towards the trucks thundering along, Wishing the pain would end.
Gave up my home my job to be a carer 41 and failed marriage failed relationships even failed my own farther, and now accused of Abuse Neglect and theft Nothing else left to lose.
Writing like this is taking its toll catch ya laters
He was Admitted to the University Hospital North Staffordshire and we came back home to be by his bedside
His hip was pinned and screwed back into place one hell of an operation for a 91 year old to go through and after a couple of days was transfererd to a local hospital called Bradwell.
For the many months he was there he was medicated against the familys wishes with temazipam and then very high doses of Codine Phosphate.
He was losing weight gaining bed sores had multiple falls and was not being given the correct amount of phisio all of which has since being acknowledged by investigation.
The family purchased an Electric Chair and fully refitted his home and bedroom to allow for his poor condition and inability to walk.
He was returned home by Ambulance and still not walking with his shirt and trowsers undone unshaven and looking very ill.
After a long day of him appearing very ill his GP was called in who expressed concern at the high doses of codine phosphate in his medication and adjusted this he also had a Chest and water infection.
The following day the out of hours doctor was called and he advised myself and familly that we must be prepared and that his oppinion was he did not have long left to live.
He was asleap most of the time and it was difficult to get him to eat and drink but we managed.
After nearly 2 weeks of him being home his social worker who had gone on holiday decided along with a tissue viability nurse to get him back to Bradwell hospital using his bed sores as an excuse to get his bed back.
He spent another week there and was then sent as an Emegency to University Hospital North Staffordshire without notes or any DNR paperwork.
When he was addmited we were asked "Why is he here" He was confused , Agitated.
The hospital filed in the CHC assesment and discharge paperwork whilst he still appeared to be very ill.
the Continuing Healthcare Checklist is a document that should have the familys input and had been undertaken without our Knowledge.
He was telling us upon every visit that the food was awfull and he was being trapped in bed and no one would come when he needed help.
We had witnessed other elderly people in the ward crying out for help and being ignored also on an occasion our grandfarther was left unattended in A toilet for over 30 minuits unchecked.
When we requested he be moved to an area of the ward where we thought more staff could see him if he tried to get out of bed and assist him he was moved to a bay which heavily smelt of fecal matter and was cluttered.
He was assigned A Social Worker who dismissed his initial discharge date and his CHC as inapropriate.
All the time he was in the university hospital he appeared either very ill , heavy sedated and very confused.
We made issue about his care , medication and general treatment.
We were requested to a meeting with his Social Worker, we assumed that this would be about getting him into reanablement or home all good news.
We arrived at the meeting and were immediatly told that there were serious issues that needed answers.
We were accused straight out of Neglect , Abuse and Theft from grandad based on the following that we had sometimes whilst caring for him ate our meal at a different time, That the food we gave him was of poor standard and that he did not have his wallet on him. We felt like someone had just shot us in the head.
We tried to explane the care situation the food and we had collected his wallet from the respite home we were told that they could not belive it and were then persistently asked how I felt about caring for him in future.
We asked as to what would happen if we were not carers and were informed that he could go home have an assesment and if ok would be more than ok.
I put forward again the point that he leaves the gas on sets fire to rice pots in microwave and was coldly informed that if he wished to go home and blow himself up that would be ok and his choice.
With my heart and mind in complete confusion and feeling like I was A complete failure in protecting my Grandfarther that evening I did something that I will never do again.
Early in the morning not being able to sleep I walked some distance from my home dont know why to this day and found myself over a dual carriageway bridge.
Looking down in the cold night air towards the trucks thundering along, Wishing the pain would end.
Gave up my home my job to be a carer 41 and failed marriage failed relationships even failed my own farther, and now accused of Abuse Neglect and theft Nothing else left to lose.
Writing like this is taking its toll catch ya laters
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